I can tell you that I've known her since we were 9 years old. I don't know all the details about what happened to them, but it's apparent they aren't drug addicts and that both parents are invested in their kids and in each other. I set the account up myself, so that at least I can trace for you from the beginning. However, I absolutely understand caution in this regard, and I urge you and your contacts to use your best judgment about what to do. I've decided I'm giving a finite amount and then drawing the line. But seriously, Trip, do what feels comfortable. The goal is definitely not to cause more stress for others. I should know... I've been mightily stressed this week in light of my friends problems.